Sex and intimacy are an important part of life for most Danes. In fact, 3 out of 4 Danes say that it is important for them to have a good sex life. But what does the good sex life look like? The answers are many and different. On one hand, it can be liberating to know that you can enjoy sex in many different ways. On the other, it can also create friction and dissatisfaction between partners if their ideas of a good sex life differ.

Fortunately, the numbers in this year’s Sindex show that most Danes are satisfied with their sex lives. 6 out of 10 say that they are satisfied with their sex lives. This goes for both men and women.

Nevertheless, every other Dane dreams about having more sex with their partner. But if we look closer at the numbers, we see that frequency isn’t the most important ingredient in a good sex life. Only 1 in 5 says that regular sex is an important factor in a good sex life. Feeling close and connected to one’s partner is far more important. In fact, it is the most important factor in a good sex life according to the Danes.

The numbers also show a depressing tendency: Negative body images limit women in their sex lives. Because while 1 in 10 women is unsatisfied with her sex life, 1 in 3 says this is because she doesn’t feel comfortable in her body.

2021 became the year, where the normally high rate of divorce in Denmark, dropped. And even though there are still many divorces, it is comforting to see that Denmark is full of happy relationships. 4 out of 5 Danes say that they are happy in their current relationships. And we are good at letting each other know.

36 percent of Danes in relationships tell their partners that they love them on a daily basis. But how do we actually also express our love for each other? Out of the five love languages – physical touch, appreciative words, attention & time, favours, and gifts – Danes seem to agree that physical touches, appreciative words, and attention & time are the way forward. Flower bouquets and small favours, on the other hand, are not the direct way to a Danish heart.

But something also indicates that men can benefit from replacing the small pat on the bum with giving their partner two minutes of undivided attention. Because while 28 percent of women prefer that their partner expresses his/her love by giving each other time, only 17 percent of men tend to express their love in this manner.

No matter who you ask, it remains essential to remember to kiss, hug and caress each other. For 9 out of 10 Danes intimacy is key to a well-functioning relationship and it affects most of us negatively if we aren’t intimate with our partner for a longer period of time.